Grief Has No Expiration Date

The loss of someone close to us leaves a lasting impact. It isn’t something we “just get over.” Grief changes us—it becomes part of our story, and that is okay.

One of the biggest misconceptions about grief is that it should fit into a neat little box with a clear start and end date. In reality, grief has no limits. There is no set time frame, no universal rule that says, “You should be done by now.”

Over the years in my work, I’ve met countless people who feel pressured by an invisible clock, believing they should stop feeling pain after a certain amount of time. It’s heartbreaking to see how deeply this belief is ingrained in our culture. Society often sends the message that we need to “move on” after a loss, as if love and memory have expiration dates.

But here’s the truth: Grief is as unique as the love we had for the person we lost.

Should you stop crying after one year? Three years? Fifteen years? Should you stop visiting the grave at some point? These are questions without clear answers—because there is no single “right” way to grieve. For some, visiting a grave or sharing stories years later is a source of comfort. For others, tears come unexpectedly even decades later. And that’s completely normal.

Instead of rushing to “get over it,” what if we gave ourselves—and others—the permission to grieve in whatever way feels right, for as long as it takes? Grief isn’t about timelines. It’s about love, memory, and healing at your own pace.

So, if you’re still grieving—whether it’s been months, years, or even decades—know this: You are not broken. You are human. And your grief is valid.

Reaching Out for Help While Navigating Grief

Grief can feel incredibly isolating. Even when surrounded by others, the weight of loss can make it seem like no one truly understands what you’re going through. That’s why reaching out for support is so important.

Support can look different for everyone:

• Talking to a trusted friend or family member who will simply listen without judgment.

• Joining a grief support group, where others share similar experiences and can offer understanding and comfort.

• Working with a therapist who specializes in grief and loss, to help process your feelings in a safe, supportive environment.

  
  

Asking for help does not mean you’re weak—it means you’re human. Grief is heavy, and you don’t have to carry it alone. Whether it’s sharing memories, expressing your emotions, or finding coping strategies, support can make the journey feel less overwhelming.

Remember: healing doesn’t mean forgetting. It means finding ways to live fully while

honoring the love that will always remain.